overgiving: what it is vs isn't
overgiving is not based on how much action we take
i know… that sounds like it doesn’t make sense - let me explain!
it’s based in: what is our current energetic state
some days, we can feel so motivated, passionate, & inspired… that we can do MANY things in alignment - that serve us + we desire to do it!
other days… sending one text… or posting one piece of content… is overgiving
overgiving is when we give beyond what our body is capable of in that moment
it’s doing a “maybe” or “no” thing as if it was a “yes” thing
we can have thoughts like…
“well, it’s just one more thing”
“i don’t want to but i should”
“i don’t want them to be mad at me, or think i’m upset at them”
“i have to because xyz…”
whenever we have to justify something… it’s NOT A YES
justifying something is when our brains try to convince our bodies of something that… isn’t… aligned
our bodies connect us to our feminine energy - which is our connection to Source, God, The Divine, the universe (whichever name you prefer)
the universe - our higher selves - know more + better than we do
we need to work with the universe - be in a relationship with it - in order to manifest our desires
justifying something is like our limited human selves trying to convince God that we know better
we don’t
(it doesn’t really make sense, but our minds try to make it logical)
we get to trust that if something doesn’t appear to be working… or moving fast enough…
it’s because the universe knows better than we do
the universe has our BEST interests at heart!
that idea can settle us in our nervous systems - in our feminine - as we let the universe breadcrumb the next step…
then the next step…
then the next one…
aligned giving is when:
we want to do it (mind - masculine energy)
our bodies are on board / energized to do it (body - feminine energy)
your cup remains full - because you’re giving from a state of overflow (union of the masc + fem)
there’s no mistaking the pull to aligned action either - you just know it’s right.
(we don’t need to overthink it)
when we’re overgiving… we’re giving when our cup isn’t full
we don’t even have the capacity - the energy - to give… yet
so when we’re in this space, we need to direct our energy onto ourselves - to fill our cups up
prioritizing ourselves above: other people, work, money, goals - for a period of time
& then, only once it reaches overflow - do we give to others (which, you’ll naturally want to anyway)
here’s the thing too - our capacity to receive more of what we desire lies in our bodies ability to TRUST us
our bodies only trust us when we aren’t giving beyond it’s limits (overgiving)
so when we stretch to make “one more post”… our bodies don’t trust us to receive more money, clients, etc
when we prioritize someone else’s feelings / needs first… our bodies don’t trust us in relationships
this actually keeps us back for longer!
we want to move forward when our bodies feel safe to do so by learning to make decisions from our bodies over just our minds
feel into your body + ask yourself: do i have the energy to give to this right now?
if not, it’s time to give to you
this can look like:
finding better feeling thoughts - that build up your energy
prioritizing an intention that serves you first (can serve people as a byproduct)
feeling your feelings - crying, journaling, moving the energy in your body
any form of self-care you feel pulled to: walks, cooking, resting, watching tv, connecting with loved ones, baths / spa treatments, listening to music in alignment with the vibe of the moment
dressing authentic to the moment + possibly doing makeup / hair - embodying a certain vibe
i highly suggest getting off of social media during this time too - to have boundaries around the comparison “i’m not doing enough” mindset - or anything else that can trigger that
also boundaries around who you’re in contact with during this time
the goal isn’t how many things we can do / manifest, or how successful can we be, or needing a partner to save us
it’s: what’s the best way for me (my body) to expand?
taking care of our well-being in each area of our lives is how we do just that
- M